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Tuesday, December 27, 2016

The Other Side of the Glass



Do you know those windows they build into bathrooms? The ones that are frosted so you can’t see through them?

You may hear laughter, excitement, or maybe even some really scary stuff on the other side, but you can’t see any of it. You can’t reach out to touch, taste it or make it a part of your life. It frustrates you, because you know on the other side of that hazy glass are all your hopes and dreams.

It must be your fault! You must lack desire or intelligence. You are too young or been told you are too old. You look in the mirror and you don’t like the nose, the hair, the smile………… So you decide you must change. You embark on a process to recreate, to reinvent. You work hard; always looking to the right and left to make sure you are keeping up with everyone else and slowly you feel yourself falling behind.

Love What Is, -  a quote from Dorothy Hunt. Sit up taller and embrace that person whose skin you are inside right now. They may be tired or frustrated, dejected or maybe just really frazzled about the edges.






“Be still and know that I am God.” Fold your busy hands on your lap, close your eyes, even if it’s just for a moment, and breathe. Forget work, family, friends and everything else that chases you and simply sit in the presence of  God.



John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as a life coach, a career coach, and an intuitive career coach.  He and his wife Joan have been married for over 42 years

Friday, December 23, 2016

Writing Our Story




I saw a cartoon the other day with a picture of an attorney talking on the telephone. The caption read, “I’m sorry mam’ I never heard of anyone suing a mirror manufacturer.”

I’m not a huge fan of mirrors. They point out things I’d rather not see. They point out the here. I’m not always in the mood to deal with the here and now.

Let me create a vision of the future. It’s much less threatening and easier to manage.

Remain positive, listen to uplifting music create a collage of everything you always wanted and allow it to collect dust somewhere.
   
It’s not real.

We are so, so caught up in the latest and greatest feel good that we neglect to look in the mirror and love and appreciate the current version of ourselves.

It’s hard to look in the mirror and see the real value we offer this world. We’re too caught up in reading other peoples stories and wishing that we somehow had the wisdom to “be like them.”

The here and now cries out “Here I am, warts and all. I have something unique and special to offer you.” 

Some days the mirror is clear, some days dusty and some days I swear it’s cracked, but it’s MY mirror, created just for that amazing, yet often flawed version of me.

There is no before and after, there is only now and the now should be embraced, warts and all starting today.

What will you see?


John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as a life coach, a career coach, and an intuitive career coach.  He and his wife Joan have been married for over 42 years





Monday, December 19, 2016

A Mothers Love




When our kids were in Catholic grade school we were  required to periodically work bingo. Ever wanting to be the center of attention, I volunteered to learn to "call" Bingo once every four weeks.

I mean, shoot-fire!!! I was on a platform, I had a microphone and according to state law once I called out the first number of the first game I was the final authority on all things Bingo for that session.

I was like a hog in slop!

Seriously though, it wasn't as fun as it initially seemed.

Some people would holler out I was calling the numbers to quickly. - These were people who were trying to manage 20 plus Bingo Cards.

Then, there were the folks who hollered at me because I was calling out numbers to slowly. - These were the people who were only managing 2 or 3 Bingo cards.

Get the picture? Ya can't win!!

One Sunday, while they were visiting from up north, my mom and dad attend Bingo. My mom was a casual player. Half way through the second game it started.

You're calling to fast!!! Slow down. 

Can ya speed it up. We don't have all night!!

From her perch in the second row my mother rose.

Leave him alone. He's doing the best he can!

Can you say embarrassed!!

It wasn't like I could slink away to the men's room. I was on a platform with a microphone and in charge.

Man plans and God laughs.

All this came to mind during Mass this past week. Approaching Christmas, the gospel was about Mary waiting for the birth of Jesus. We don't know a whole lot about Mary other than what the gospels tell us and her role in the Christian salvation narrative. That conversation can provoke all sorts of discussion!!

No matter how we slice it Mary was a mom.

So, as I sat there listening to Father Tony tell us it was verboten to save seats for family members at Christmas Eve Mass, I wondered if Mary ever stepped out of the crowd and told them to cut Jesus a bit of slack.

The gospels and Renaissance artists portray Mary as a quiet, obedient person who stayed in the background.

No matter how we slice it Mary was a mom.

That was her kid and yes he was the Son of God and Savior of the world but you want problems? Mess with me!!

I had to smile. Somehow I saw Jesus on the Bingo platform with me, his hand on my shoulder, smiling a bit himself and letting me know he understood.

That made him and his mom, that much more real.

Nothing greater or stronger than a mothers love

Namaste.

John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as a life coach, a career coach, and an intuitive career coach.  He and his wife Joan have been married for over 42 years



Tuesday, December 13, 2016

Conquering Our Fears



                         "Being stuck in one place too long is not going to work" ~ Jenny Blake

"Most people lead lives of quiet desperation" ~ Henry David Thoreau 

Maybe I should leave it at that. I mean we all know the drill. We've read it all before, especially the Thoreau quote. 

We nod our heads - Yeah, that's me!!  Oh well. 

Being stuck? It hurts. Oh we won't admit it on social media. 

Maybe hurt isn't the word. Frustrated? Scared? 

What if they find out I'm not everything.................

Can you help me? Who is they?

What it comes down to is a moment or reckoning and most of us would much rather avoid it? 

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No matter how you choose to celebrate the month of December it can take its toll on us with all the activity. That doesn't even take into account the pressure to start looking at those dreaded goals and objectives for next year. 

You know? The ones that end up in the circular file sometime around Valentines day?

The plaque on my desk says Business Coach. 

But really, the people I work with who end up reaching the finish line with a flourish? Them people? 

It's all about living a healthy and balanced life. 

They have challenges and trials and tribulations just like everyone else I know.

Wanna know what separates them from everyone else? 

They are not afraid. 

When all is said and done it's a matter of facing what we are afraid of and deciding to first accept it as being real and then create a plan to over come the obstacle it presents. 

Now is a good time to get a head start on those things you want to propel you to success in the upcoming months. 

No building stood the test of time without a firm foundation. 

Neither can we

I'm going to leave it there and save the preaching for the guru's and the Sunday sermon. 

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John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as a life coach, a career coach, and an intuitive career coach.  He and his wife Joan have been married for over 42 years



Saturday, December 10, 2016

Fighting The Gym Membership Mentality



Yeah, it's that time of year.

Our inboxes are flooded with all sorts of exhortations to "Make huge changes in the upcoming year."

There are all sorts of products, potions and guaranteed paths for you and I to live healthy, happy and more prosperous lives.

So we pay the piper and sit back and wait, and wait and wait and wait.

I drank the Kool Aid, ponied up the cash (or VISA card) and nothing happened. Faker! Fraud! Phony! I have been deceived!!!

Well ya have. Just not by who you think you have.

My workout buddy leaned over on the elliptical this morning and nudged me

Hear they come. 

Who? 

The Get Healthy Quick group. 

I looked over and saw a gaggle of hopeful souls being given a tour by the membership manager who was about to burst out of the tee shirt he was wearing. Like Moses leading the people to the promised land he gestured and barked towards the sweaty souls whose muscles quivered with every stroke.


On January 1 the walking track will be as busy as the 405 at rush hour. By Valentines Day it will be Ghost Town on the River.

It's the Gym Membership Mentality and it permeates every aspect of our modern lives.

Someone paints a picture of who we wanna be and we affirm that belief by signing on the dotted line and wait for some sort of magical transformation to occur. No one tells us that those folks with the shimmering muscles made a long term investment in their prosperity and it was the hard work not the VISA card that made the ultimate difference.

It permeates every aspect of our modern lives.

We wanna believe in the good guys, in the promise of what we deserve and as soon as someone pushes the right set of buttons be believe The Promised Land appears before our eyes.

It may not be joining a gym or opting in to a weight loss program.

It may be the promise of a six figure income, the partner of your dreams, or the career you have always coveted. We listen to and read testimonials and our intentions are good.

But sometimes we forget.

So here is a reminder for you and I:
  • Everything worthwhile has a personal cost
  • Don't let a few setbacks ever define who you are
  • As long as you compare your situation to other peoples, you will never feel good about yourself, 
When the day is done we have to ask ourselves Am I making a long term investment or am I grasping for the flavor on the month.