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Friday, September 30, 2016

A Good Coach Is..................


But how do you know?

I have been helping people find their career, life and relationship goals since mid- 2001. Back then there weren't as many of us as there are today and if you think the coaching profession lacks regulation in 2016, you should have seen it in its infancy. The Wild West comes to mind.

Most of us are qualified in the area(s) we coach in, authentic, honest and chock full of integrity. We don't over-promise, don't over sell and don't promise you the sun, the moon, and the stars. We are fair and equitable in what we charge for our services........

Okay, you get the point.

Let me make another via story, if I may.

I have a friend who will not come within a hundred yards of a peach, much less eat one. They had a bad experience and they haven't forgotten it. I've tried to tell them that one bad peach isn't representative of all peaches but our experiences can leave very vivid impressions.

Unfortunately, there isn't much difference between a bad peach and an unqualified or ill prepared coach. Once we have a bad experience we will remember it for a long, long time.

So, HOW do you know?

Let me share nine things to look for in a business coach. (Or any coach for that matter!)


  • What is their experience and expertise in their field?
  • Are they a good teacher?
  • What are their expectations of you?
  • Are they are accessible?
  • What's their attitude towards coaching? 
  • Who are their connections?
  • Will they hold you accountable?
  • Are they willing to listen to you?
  • Are they working with a coach themselves? 
From The 8 Qualities, You Need to Look for in a Business Coach by Stephen Key. The ninth item is my personal contribution. 


Clear as mud, hey? That is quite a lot to digest in one sitting. 

Over the next few days, I am going to break each point down in a separate blog so you have a clear understanding of where and with who you should invest your resources. 

As a mentor of mine once said: Stay tuned, there is more to come.

The above information  is a guideline based on the author's experience in coaching. Before choosing a coach make sure they meet your needs, both career and financial. (My lawyers always feel better when I say that.)

John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as a life coach, a career coach, and an intuitive career coach.  He and his wife Joan have been married for over 42 years






Wednesday, September 28, 2016

"You Can Be a Tad Bit Hard Headed, John"


“A farmer went out to sow his seed. As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path, and the birds came and ate it up.  Some fell on rocky places, where it did not have much soil. Other seed fell among thorns, which grew up and choked the plants. Still other seed fell on good soil, where it produced a crop—a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown.” Matthew 13:5, 7-9

Scary stuff.

One minute you're anticipating what you need to do when you get home and the next minute you are wondering why your gear shift cover is floating at eye level. It was just like in the movies or on TV.

Where the hell did that come from and why is there glass all over me? 

I didn't sleep well last night. The stiffness and soreness were easily dispatched with ibuprofen. I just kept laying there, wide awake.

I coulda been killed. 

But I wasn't. This could have had a much nastier ending.

The rental car people picked me up awhile ago and ferried me to get a loaner. Driving home I was tense, anxious and scared.

I don't wanna drive anymore. 

Somewhere in my head, a voice chirped Now you know how Maggie feels. 

Maggie is my daughter who has a severe phobia when it comes to driving. She's tried and tried but can't get past her fears. She takes busses and cabs but a lot of the time I drive her wherever she needs to go.

I've grown some, really I have. I went from resenting it to realizing that a lot of folks would love to have a daughter they could spend time with. Lottsa lonely people in this world. But I never understood why someone would have a fear of driving a car. It represents freedom and the excitement  of going wherever you wanted to go!!!

By the time I pulled into the driveway my hands were shaking.

I believe everything can be a learning experience, no matter how frightful, if we choose to open ourselves and face some things that we'd rather not face.

Joel Osteen says, It's removing our masks.

Now you know how Maggie feels.

I did. It finally registered that every time she sits behind the wheel her head spins a bit, she gets a tad bit nauseous and she'd rather be somewhere else.

Okay, Father, I get your message. Did it have to arrive in such a spectacular fashion? 

You can be a tad bit hard headed John. 



John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as a life coach, a career coach and an intuitive career coach.  He and his wife Joan have been married for over 42 years

Monday, September 26, 2016

The Hound of Heaven




The third time he said to him, "Simon son of John, do you love me?" Peter was hurt because Jesus asked him the third time, "Do you love me?" He said, "Lord, you know all things; you know that I love you." Jesus said, "Feed my sheep. ~John 21:17


There is a poem titled The Hound of Heaven by Francis Thompson. It's a long poem but it begins like this. 


I FLED Him, down the nights and down the days;
I fled Him, down the arches of the years;
I fled Him, down the labyrinthine ways
Of my own mind; and in the mist of tears
I hid from Him.........



I dotted all the "I's" and crossed all the "T's". I attended church, sang in the choir, gave inspiring speeches on retreat and knew my Scripture inside out. I was a good husband, father, and provider. I was not and never will be perfect. I never saw myself as being anything special. I was a husband and a father of six great kids. I had a steady job with a Fortune 5 company. People just don't start going to work and begin spreading the love of God as their prime profession when all of that is at stake.

Do they?

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I stood just inside the basement doorway enjoying the coolness. When we were younger my mom would make cookies and candies for holidays and put them on a folding table  to keep them fresh.  It was always very still and very quiet. I loved going down there. It was dark and cool.and the only light came from a small window on a far wall. You have to let your eyes adjust for a moment or two. 


I heard a faint but distinct voice in my heart and my head. 

Feed my sheep

Okay. You still haven't quite adjusted to the light. The power of suggestion, your mind playing tricks and some wishful thinking. I've never much cared for the "Repent or risk the lake of fire and everlasting brimstone crowd."I do not believe that's the point.  

"Where there is doubt faith, where there is despair hope and where there is sadness joy. 

That's what my coaching practice has evolved to. No charts, no graphs, no crawling inside your head. Someone asked me where I find my clients; how do I market and funnel and convert and all that jazz. I told them that they find me. 

It took a long time but I understand what that voice deep down inside of me meant for me. It meant that I was to share the hope, the faith, and the positive value with people who needed it most.

They don't teach that in business school.

Are you searching?

Maybe you can almost taste it or reach out and touch it but as soon as you do, it moves out of your reach.

Maybe you are tired of hitting your head against the wall because every time you take a step forward you feel yourself slowly sinking.

I can't quantify hope. It's not in a book it's in your heart.

I can help you find it, in your life and your career. 


John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as life coach, a career coach and an intuitive career coach.  He and his wife Joan have been married for over 42 years

Sunday, September 25, 2016

Better Slaves



Did that cause your eyes to shoot wide open as it did mine the first time I heard it?

Probably.

Bear with me.

The people of Israel were held captive in Egypt. Their main job - to make bricks. Straw is a key component in the ancient brick making process. Without it you have no brick.

Each morning the Egyptians would deposit a pile of straw in front of the Israelite's. Along with it, their quota of bricks for the day. Each day they met their quota,so the king kept raising their quota and they were equal to the task.

The king couldn't figure out how these people kept rising to the challenge so he told the supervisors to quit gathering straw. Let them gather their own and keep the same quota's in place.

That would fix their wagon!

So, the people of Israel gathered together in prayer and they asked God to help them meet their quota's and gather more straw.

Pretty inspirational huh?

Ask and you shall receive. I mean that's the whole point of the Bible, right? God grants favor to those who are in agreement with him, right?

So, I am driving down the road listening to this story from Joel Osteen, when he completely blows my mind.

He says that in reality they were asking God to make them better slaves.

They weren't praying for abundance, freedom, or all those amazing things we are promised if we are in agreement with God.

Ever have a Whoaaa and Ah-Ha moment at the same time? (It can be a bit dicey)

Lord, help us make it to pay day. We'll be forever grateful. 

Lord, if I can be pain free for just a day or so.......

Lord, I am asking you to help me keep my job.

When I do that, I'm not asking for abundance or for prosperity in my life. I am asking to be a better slave. I am asking to keep my current condition.

Wanna know why?

I don't believe I deserve any more than what I have. I'm just grateful God doesn't turn around and squash me like a bug.

Abundance? Favor? Prosperity? - They're for everyone else.

People ask me all the time: What is it you actually do, John? 

When I heard that broadcast the  other day it all became clear.

Quit praying to be a better slave. 

In my next two or three blogs, I am going to share with you how I got to be where I am in this journey. Some of it,I have never shared with anyone. 

I think It's time. 

John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as life coach, a career coach and an intuitive career coach.  He and his wife Joan have been married for over 42 years

Wednesday, September 21, 2016

What If You Weren't There?



It usually come from out of the clear blue.

I get out of bed in the morning focused on what lies ahead. Blogs to be written, clients to talk to, networking events, joint ventures, social media marketing..........

Gotta fit a trip to the gym in there somehow, right?

Gotta look and feel your best.

Like I said; It usually comes out of nowhere, sorta like the pop-up thunderstorm that grabs your attention with its first clap of thunder.

It's can be an email, a private message, a quick blog comment thanking you for being an anchor, for sharing an insight, revealing your own pain and indecision or picking up your pom-pom's and being a cheerleader when it was most needed.

Someone touches my heart when they thank me for helping them through an ordeal or consider me part of a family they do not have because I am always ready with support and help and just being a good friend.

I sorta scratch my head.

"Why isn't this reflected in my algorithms?"

"Why doesn't my page view needle spike?"

"Will this affect my SEO?"

I have never attended a webinar or seminar that's talked about sharing part of myself with other people simply because I believe I have the responsibility to do so.

What if you weren't there?

Oh, I know, you mutter something about how someone else would step in and fill the void. Nope, sorry, you are wrong they wouldn't - They couldn't.

"Where you are is where you should be, right now." 

Someone shared that with me almost 20 years ago. When I poise my hand over the key board, look into the camera and smile to my adoring faithful I  remember...........

"They don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care."

What if you weren't there?

What if I weren't?

Scary thought, hey?

It gets me through the rough patches.

John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as life coach, a career coach and an intuitive career coach.  

Sunday, September 18, 2016

The Other 11


But when he saw the wind,he was afraid, and beginning to sink he cried out, “Lord, save me.” Matthew 13:30

So there he was, scampering out of the boat, eyes all aglow with excitement. This was his big moment, his 15 minutes of fame, the signature moment that would stamp him unequivocally as "The One."

I can see him, a smile on his face and a bit of a swagger as he navigated the waves. He looked back at the other 11 huddled in the boat.

He thinks, They're talking to each other, probably giving me my props, after all this time.

Oh, Lord, there he goes again.

He won't ever learn.

He just won't leave well enough alone. 
Ya know, we are gonna have to hear about this for a long time.

With each step he gains more confidence and courage. He may have even done a bit of a dance as he skittered across the waves.

Jesus must be REALLY impressed.

A strong gust of wind, then another and the rain picks up. The waves get higher.

Where is Jesus, I can't see him? Help, help.......

We've all heard this story or a reference to it in some form or fashion. We're told Jesus chastised poor Peter for his lack of faith. 
Jesus immediately reached out his hand and took hold of him, saying to him, 

“O you of little faith, why did you doubt?” And when they got into the boat, the wind ceased. Matthew 14: 31-32

I have another take.

First, I don't believe for a moment that Jesus was being critical. I believe he was asking Peter,

What happened? You were doing great and then the wind came up and you fell to pieces. Work on your faith and you'll be fine.

Okay, I haven't been struck by lightening so let me share what I believe is the sub plot in this story.

No one got out of the boat but Peter.

The other 11? They cowered, whimpered and looked out across the sea in awe.

Better to hang on tight to what I know then run the risk of losing it all..........

Jesus was a great teacher. He used parables and examples and stories to make a point. 
I think Jesus knew that Peter was going to stumble a bit and he knew when he led him back to the boat.

When he questioned Peter's faith it wasn't to berate him, it was also meant to ask the other 11 why hadn't they joined him?

Faith is a funny thing. It manifests itself in all sorts of different ways.

The successful people I know?

They scamper over the side of the boat each and every morning and sometimes they make it to the shore and sometimes the wind blows them off course.

One thing is for certain. Each and every morning they climb in the boat and head out to sea, ready for whatever is headed their way.

The rest of us?

We're often like the other 11. We'll stay in the boat and take our chances.

But every moment of every day,we have a chance to jump out of the boat to walk on water

Sunday, September 11, 2016

You Want Me to Do WHAT?



We don't talk about forgiveness in the workplace a whole lot . It means we'd have to face up to all sorts of stuff that we'd rather not talk about.

Makes ya a bit squeamish doesn't it?

Pride goes before the fall and all that stuff.




I know people whose mission in life is to help us improve our physical well being. They are  vigilant about warning us of the dangers the food we ingest and how our life style affects the quality of our life.

For the life of me, I can't think of anyone who takes us on a journey of exploring and examining the toxicity we allow in our minds and souls on a day to day basis.

I'm not talking about in-your-face intervention. I'm talking about a moment of personal reckoning


Jerusalem, wake up! Stand up!
You’ve drunk too much
from the cup filled
with the Lord’s anger.
You have swallowed every drop,
and you can’t walk straight.
~Isaiah 51:17

If I wasn't awake when I read that passage I was afterwards. 

Holy Cow! Don't pull any punches or anything. 

The next few verses of that chapter go on to talk about being consumed with anger and malice towards our enemies and how God is willing to remove it from us. 

Isaiah challenges us to walk straight, to go beyond our anger towards those folks we hold hostage in our minds. 

It's an act of courage that creates wholeness and renewal  within. 

Have a blessed week. 





Friday, September 2, 2016

Keeping Focused





I heard a story the other day.

A man was walking through an airport terminal and saw a sign on the wall that read Your Future: Twenty Five Cents. 

Below it was a small machine.

The man dug in his pocket for a quarter and put in the slot. After a few seconds a piece of paper came out

Your name is John Smith. You are on the 2:20 PM flight to Chicago.

The man was amazed. He looked around and couldn't quite figure out how a small, square box knew so much about him.

He found another quarter, put it in the slot and waited.

Your name is John Smith. You are on the 2:20 PM flight to Chicago.

The man began stopping other travelers. Did they know how this, this, this thing worked and how did it know so much about him? 

Most people shook their heads. 

A few moved away in a hurry. 

The man reached for another quarter and to his dismay he was out of change. 

He hurried to a news stand on the other side of the terminal. He returned with a handful of quarters. 

Eagerly and expectantly he pushed a quarter into the slot. 

Your name is John Smith. You just missed the  2:20 PM flight to Chicago.


Stay focused

Don't miss your  2:20 PM flight to Chicago