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Monday, February 8, 2016

Between 3 and 93




Most mornings he bounces out of bed, head on a swivel, huge grin on his face and looking around to see what possibilities present themselves for that day. My son says he's hell on wheels.

Don't want mom and dad to go to work? Hide their car keys.

Don't like what's on TV? When someone leaves the room grab the remote and start pushing buttons. (The cable company said what he did was impossible to do!)

Breakfast not to your liking? Grin and yell "Noooooooooooo," Push it on to the floor.

Joan told me once "Don't even try."

He is not mean. Each adventure positive or otherwise is met with a grin and a laugh and sometimes a run to his room where he closes the door and laughs

He's almost 3

A friend, her sister and her dad left Chicago on Saturday to take a month long trip by car to the Grand Canyon via the old Route 66. They'll be coming by following the Rio Grande and then turning left to head for home. It's an important trip for her dad. Time is running out for him.

He's 93 and soon he'll be 94.

He told his daughters that the clock was ticking and that he couldn't plan his trip for age 94 until he took one at 93.

3 and 93

In between sit the rest of us.

In between  are all sorts of warnings, admonitions and detailed plans on what success means and what it should be and how you and I are supposed to behave to achieve it.

Often we end up sitting in a coffee shop across from a coach and saying

I know what I am supposed to be is inside of me, I just can't seem to locate it

I told someone recently that when we enter grade school we should be given a large sheet of construction paper and a box of crayons and be asked to draw a picture of "what we wanna be!" It should be updated every few years. It should be part of our permanent file and our "education" should be based on "what we wanna be."

I spoke to a group last week about coaching and how to pick a good coach. One of the bio questions I had to answer was "What do you do for fun?"

This is it. Writing, speaking, coaching and acting like a 3 year old from time to time. Meeting people, helping them find their path. This is what I've wanted all my life. It took over 40 years to find it but one day it popped up and yelled, "Here I am."

I'm having fun doing what I'm doing.

How about you?





Monday, February 1, 2016

Right Here and Right Now


Anger

Anxiety

Frustration

Hell of a way to begin your day, isn't it?

My first reaction was to fix it - You know, to find the source, make a few adjustments and breathe a sigh of relief.  All would be well.

The person guiding me through the meditation suggested that I become aware of what I was feeling at that precise moment. - Anger, Anxiety and Frustration. 

My shoulders loosened a bit. I let my guard down slightly and I let those three feelings settle in. My breathing slowed down.

My guide suggested I not only accept those feelings but welcome them.

My shoulders slowly tightened again. These are negative feelings. These are toxic feelings. The guru's tell us to flee, to run, to cloak ourselves in the mantle of positive thought.........

It's a crummy feeling. Your stomach feels like the inside of a washing machine when it's on the spin cycle. Ugh.

I followed the guide through the process and as those negative emotions took form. I saw a sliver of light somewhere in my consciousness.  

We cannot help you until you recognize us. Anger, Anxiety and Frustration. (I swear they each had a sweat shirt on identifying themselves!)

Dont get me wrong. I love the warm fuzzies. I enjoy feeling good about me, my, life and my career. But on those mornings when I scan my horizon and what I identify is Anger, Anxiety and Frustration, I am well served to pause and listen to them.

Ten pounds of sugar in a five pound sack has a funny way of exploding eventually.

The people we encounter on a day-to-day basis, the people who pass through our lives, are the recipients of those unidentified and unexplored emotions.

I've suggested that employers stop investing in leadership training, team building and like endeavors and invest a fraction of that resource in teaching people how to meditate and get in tune and in touch with what they are feeling, right here and right now.

Yeah, I know, even in 2016 the thought of sitting quietly and listening to yourself as you are, right now; is something that smacks of incense and Woodstock to many people.

Strength comes from finding the weak spots, determining their origin and strengthening them.

It begins with recognition of who you are and what you're feeling

Right Now

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