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Tuesday, December 27, 2016

The Other Side of the Glass



Do you know those windows they build into bathrooms? The ones that are frosted so you can’t see through them?

You may hear laughter, excitement, or maybe even some really scary stuff on the other side, but you can’t see any of it. You can’t reach out to touch, taste it or make it a part of your life. It frustrates you, because you know on the other side of that hazy glass are all your hopes and dreams.

It must be your fault! You must lack desire or intelligence. You are too young or been told you are too old. You look in the mirror and you don’t like the nose, the hair, the smile………… So you decide you must change. You embark on a process to recreate, to reinvent. You work hard; always looking to the right and left to make sure you are keeping up with everyone else and slowly you feel yourself falling behind.

Love What Is, -  a quote from Dorothy Hunt. Sit up taller and embrace that person whose skin you are inside right now. They may be tired or frustrated, dejected or maybe just really frazzled about the edges.






“Be still and know that I am God.” Fold your busy hands on your lap, close your eyes, even if it’s just for a moment, and breathe. Forget work, family, friends and everything else that chases you and simply sit in the presence of  God.



John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as a life coach, a career coach, and an intuitive career coach.  He and his wife Joan have been married for over 42 years

Friday, December 23, 2016

Writing Our Story




I saw a cartoon the other day with a picture of an attorney talking on the telephone. The caption read, “I’m sorry mam’ I never heard of anyone suing a mirror manufacturer.”

I’m not a huge fan of mirrors. They point out things I’d rather not see. They point out the here. I’m not always in the mood to deal with the here and now.

Let me create a vision of the future. It’s much less threatening and easier to manage.

Remain positive, listen to uplifting music create a collage of everything you always wanted and allow it to collect dust somewhere.
   
It’s not real.

We are so, so caught up in the latest and greatest feel good that we neglect to look in the mirror and love and appreciate the current version of ourselves.

It’s hard to look in the mirror and see the real value we offer this world. We’re too caught up in reading other peoples stories and wishing that we somehow had the wisdom to “be like them.”

The here and now cries out “Here I am, warts and all. I have something unique and special to offer you.” 

Some days the mirror is clear, some days dusty and some days I swear it’s cracked, but it’s MY mirror, created just for that amazing, yet often flawed version of me.

There is no before and after, there is only now and the now should be embraced, warts and all starting today.

What will you see?


John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as a life coach, a career coach, and an intuitive career coach.  He and his wife Joan have been married for over 42 years





Monday, December 19, 2016

A Mothers Love




When our kids were in Catholic grade school we were  required to periodically work bingo. Ever wanting to be the center of attention, I volunteered to learn to "call" Bingo once every four weeks.

I mean, shoot-fire!!! I was on a platform, I had a microphone and according to state law once I called out the first number of the first game I was the final authority on all things Bingo for that session.

I was like a hog in slop!

Seriously though, it wasn't as fun as it initially seemed.

Some people would holler out I was calling the numbers to quickly. - These were people who were trying to manage 20 plus Bingo Cards.

Then, there were the folks who hollered at me because I was calling out numbers to slowly. - These were the people who were only managing 2 or 3 Bingo cards.

Get the picture? Ya can't win!!

One Sunday, while they were visiting from up north, my mom and dad attend Bingo. My mom was a casual player. Half way through the second game it started.

You're calling to fast!!! Slow down. 

Can ya speed it up. We don't have all night!!

From her perch in the second row my mother rose.

Leave him alone. He's doing the best he can!

Can you say embarrassed!!

It wasn't like I could slink away to the men's room. I was on a platform with a microphone and in charge.

Man plans and God laughs.

All this came to mind during Mass this past week. Approaching Christmas, the gospel was about Mary waiting for the birth of Jesus. We don't know a whole lot about Mary other than what the gospels tell us and her role in the Christian salvation narrative. That conversation can provoke all sorts of discussion!!

No matter how we slice it Mary was a mom.

So, as I sat there listening to Father Tony tell us it was verboten to save seats for family members at Christmas Eve Mass, I wondered if Mary ever stepped out of the crowd and told them to cut Jesus a bit of slack.

The gospels and Renaissance artists portray Mary as a quiet, obedient person who stayed in the background.

No matter how we slice it Mary was a mom.

That was her kid and yes he was the Son of God and Savior of the world but you want problems? Mess with me!!

I had to smile. Somehow I saw Jesus on the Bingo platform with me, his hand on my shoulder, smiling a bit himself and letting me know he understood.

That made him and his mom, that much more real.

Nothing greater or stronger than a mothers love

Namaste.

John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as a life coach, a career coach, and an intuitive career coach.  He and his wife Joan have been married for over 42 years



Tuesday, December 13, 2016

Conquering Our Fears



                         "Being stuck in one place too long is not going to work" ~ Jenny Blake

"Most people lead lives of quiet desperation" ~ Henry David Thoreau 

Maybe I should leave it at that. I mean we all know the drill. We've read it all before, especially the Thoreau quote. 

We nod our heads - Yeah, that's me!!  Oh well. 

Being stuck? It hurts. Oh we won't admit it on social media. 

Maybe hurt isn't the word. Frustrated? Scared? 

What if they find out I'm not everything.................

Can you help me? Who is they?

What it comes down to is a moment or reckoning and most of us would much rather avoid it? 

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No matter how you choose to celebrate the month of December it can take its toll on us with all the activity. That doesn't even take into account the pressure to start looking at those dreaded goals and objectives for next year. 

You know? The ones that end up in the circular file sometime around Valentines day?

The plaque on my desk says Business Coach. 

But really, the people I work with who end up reaching the finish line with a flourish? Them people? 

It's all about living a healthy and balanced life. 

They have challenges and trials and tribulations just like everyone else I know.

Wanna know what separates them from everyone else? 

They are not afraid. 

When all is said and done it's a matter of facing what we are afraid of and deciding to first accept it as being real and then create a plan to over come the obstacle it presents. 

Now is a good time to get a head start on those things you want to propel you to success in the upcoming months. 

No building stood the test of time without a firm foundation. 

Neither can we

I'm going to leave it there and save the preaching for the guru's and the Sunday sermon. 

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John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as a life coach, a career coach, and an intuitive career coach.  He and his wife Joan have been married for over 42 years



Saturday, December 10, 2016

Fighting The Gym Membership Mentality



Yeah, it's that time of year.

Our inboxes are flooded with all sorts of exhortations to "Make huge changes in the upcoming year."

There are all sorts of products, potions and guaranteed paths for you and I to live healthy, happy and more prosperous lives.

So we pay the piper and sit back and wait, and wait and wait and wait.

I drank the Kool Aid, ponied up the cash (or VISA card) and nothing happened. Faker! Fraud! Phony! I have been deceived!!!

Well ya have. Just not by who you think you have.

My workout buddy leaned over on the elliptical this morning and nudged me

Hear they come. 

Who? 

The Get Healthy Quick group. 

I looked over and saw a gaggle of hopeful souls being given a tour by the membership manager who was about to burst out of the tee shirt he was wearing. Like Moses leading the people to the promised land he gestured and barked towards the sweaty souls whose muscles quivered with every stroke.


On January 1 the walking track will be as busy as the 405 at rush hour. By Valentines Day it will be Ghost Town on the River.

It's the Gym Membership Mentality and it permeates every aspect of our modern lives.

Someone paints a picture of who we wanna be and we affirm that belief by signing on the dotted line and wait for some sort of magical transformation to occur. No one tells us that those folks with the shimmering muscles made a long term investment in their prosperity and it was the hard work not the VISA card that made the ultimate difference.

It permeates every aspect of our modern lives.

We wanna believe in the good guys, in the promise of what we deserve and as soon as someone pushes the right set of buttons be believe The Promised Land appears before our eyes.

It may not be joining a gym or opting in to a weight loss program.

It may be the promise of a six figure income, the partner of your dreams, or the career you have always coveted. We listen to and read testimonials and our intentions are good.

But sometimes we forget.

So here is a reminder for you and I:
  • Everything worthwhile has a personal cost
  • Don't let a few setbacks ever define who you are
  • As long as you compare your situation to other peoples, you will never feel good about yourself, 
When the day is done we have to ask ourselves Am I making a long term investment or am I grasping for the flavor on the month.

Monday, November 28, 2016

Getting Past the Past: A Job Search Killer




Caleb and I were sitting in a small diner. His company had hired me to assess his fitness and ability to move to the senior management team after twenty plus years of service

I'd talked to the people he'd worked with, worked for and supervised. Everyone said he was a solid performer and he was identified as a real leader.

So there we sat.

Caleb was nervous and kept wiping the sweat from his face with a napkin.

What are you afraid of?

I don't believe I am qualified for this job. 

How come? 

Oh, John! You wouldn't believe some of the things I've done during my career. Stuff I'm not proud of.

Lemme ask you something. Do you regret those things. I mean if you had to do them over would you stop, think and choose a different course? 

Yes


Have you made amends where you could? Did you let people know  you'd goofed up and did you apologize?

Yeah

Can I share something with you? I've spent the past two days talking to a wide variety of people you've worked with over the years. I'll summarize their opinion of you in three words - "Stand Up Guy." So, whatever you are doing keep doing it. As long as you keep looking at every pimple and wart you are never going to be the person you want to be. 

That means all those people who respect you will never reach their potential either. The past is the past. You can't change it. 

Caleb had one half of the equation down pat - He readily forgave other people. It took him awhile to understand that he needed to learn from his past, forgive himself and move forward. When he did he blossomed as a leader.

I can't tell you how many interviews I participated in where the candidate feels they have to go to confession and share every faux pas, they've committed in their life. The interviewer baits the hook by asking:

What are your weaknesses? 

The flood gates usually open wide. 

Tip Number One
As it relates to the position I'm applying for I have no weaknesses. I have areas I can improve in and I'm sure there will be a learning curve in the position. I am always willing to learn

Your interviewer wants you to do their work for them. Instead of trying to figure out your fitness for duty on their own, they load the gun and hand it to you. 

Don't blame them. 

Most people conducting job interviews receive less than 5 hours of formal training and most of that is focused on the questions you can and cant ask. Unfortunately a lot of company's  believe anyone can do it.

They can't. It's one of many reasons there is so much turnover today. We'll slay that dragon another time. 

Look at it this way. You have invested a lot of time, effort and resource to position yourself for the career you want. If you don't believe in you, why should anyone else.

Be confident.  

Tip Number Two
Don't tell them about the pimple on your nose unless they ask, "Is that a pimple on your nose?"

Remember Caleb? He went to great lengths to tell me every one of his faults. Had I not spent some time doing back ground interviews I might have told the folks who hired me that Caleb wasn't the right fit for the position. 

An old boss of mine put it best: 

Telling the truth isn't telling everything you know


Caleb's story may be a familiar one to you. Many of you have heard me tell it before,just not in great detail.

At one point in our conversation I stood up, clicnked my spoon on my water glass and announced the following to the entire resturant. 

Anyone here who has never messed up in a royal fashion at work, please stand up!!!

A few folks laughed, a few looked startled but no one stood up. I sat down and looked across the table

See, you're in good company. 

So are you and so am I

Next time I'll share a technique that impressed even me when I saw it used for the first time. 






Tuesday, November 22, 2016

We Don't Always Hire the Most Qualified Person - What happens when the interview room door closes

I looked up from my desk and the president of the company was standing in my door

Do you have a minute?

((((What am I gonna say? "Go away I'm busy."))))

He needed a favor.

A local official's nephew had just left the Marine Corps and was having a difficult time finding a job. It would mean a lot if we could find something. So, I did what every mid-level manager in the 1990's did - I handed the assignment off to someone in my department and went back to more pressing issues.

By the way: This story may not be going where you think it's going

A few weeks later I looked up from my desk and guess who is standing in my door? 

Didn't we have a discussion about hiring Mr A's nephew a few weeks ago? 

This was accompanied by a furrowed brow. 

Lemme check,boss 

Please do!!

Down the hall I went. 

Hey Janice!!! What ever became of  the person whose resume I gave you a few weeks back. You know, the one Jack wanted us to interview. I put a heavy emphasis on "Jack."

We're not hiring him? 

We're not? Did he fail the drug screen, background check come up sorta wonky?

Nope. He was wearing the same after shave my first husband wore and he was no good. I just saved the company a lot of heart ache. Birds of a feather..........

If you have spent any time with me at all you know it's a rare occasion that I am speechless. Count this as one of those rare occasions!!!

A few phone calls later and he was a new employee. That was 21 years ago and as far as I know he is still working for that company. Everyone he worked with had rave reviews about his attitude and performance.

In his book Blink! Malcolm Gladwell asserts that we form an opinion about someone in the first two seconds after meeting them. Once formed it's hard to shake that opinion, good or bad. In Janice's case, as soon as she got a whiff of the candidates cologne, it was game over. Too many negative memories.

This supposition has another facet though.

A few years earlier I was working at a company as as human resource director. Our manufacturing manager and vice president of operations, Joe,  instructed me that anyone who submitted a resume that said they attended XYZ University was moved to the head of the line.

Guess where he went to school? Yup, XYX University.

I could write another four paragraphs about how those interviews and subsequent hiring's went. I'll only say it is a part of my life I'd just as soon forget.

While Janice believed anyone who wore a certain brand of cologne could do no right, Joe believed anyone who went to XYZ University could do no wrong.

After all, look at him!!

We've been led to believe it's a level playing field when we walk into an interview.

Far from it.

When the door closes and the games begin, it is far from objective.

In my next few blogs I'll share some tips I learned in over twenty years of interviewing people that can help you avoid the mine field.

So stay tuned. There is more to come.

John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as a life coach, a career coach, and an intuitive career coach.  He and his wife Joan have been married for over 42 years


Monday, October 31, 2016

But Does it Play in Peoria?


On top of being good looking I read minds. I know what you're thinking.

There's no such thing as a bad idea, John!!

Uhm, yeah, there are - Lots of em'

I should know.

According to a recent personality profile excercise I participated in I am a quick decision maker. In the parlance of the day my gut feeling about a situation over rules my heart and my head.

It gets worse.

According to the statistics gathered through the testing agency I represent a whooping 3% of the total population. Me, Napoleon and Donald Trump. Apparently it is how I am hard wired. So, like a puppy with a blanket in its mouth I don't usually give up until the gosh darn thing is in tatters.

Sigh. There is hope. If you react to situations the way I do here are a few tips to help you avoid the land mines of bad decision making. I've found that they help me create some balance in my life and some sanity for those around me.

"Will It Play In Peoria?"
Comedian Groucho Marx was credited with coining this phrase during his vaudeville days. The belief is that if a show was successful in Peoria, Illinois it would like be successful any where. If not, it was rewritten, recast or abandoned all together. Laugh if you will but in the 1970's Pampers, McDonald's and Coca Cola all test marketed certain products in Peoria.

If you have an idea or a product that just keeps nagging at your creative soul and makes you want to sell your home and your oldest child's birth right, before you do, find a group of really critical people and let them pick it apart. See how it plays to a group of users. If it comes out relativity unscathed you might have a good idea. If not see Groucho Marx above - rewrite, recast or abandon.



Find a few people who care enough to hurt your feelings
There are a few people in my life whose opinions I respect so much that I won't be offended when they clear their throats and ask Are you nuts, John!?

These folks are known as trusted advisers and they will cut through all the miscellaneous baloney and let you know when they think you are flirting with disaster. They care enough about you and your well being to be open and often blunt in their opinions.

I can tell you from personal experience they have saved me from stepping in it, so to speak, more than once. It reminds me of meme I saw recently

I asked some people I respect to act as an advisory group for me and my business. I will pitch ideas and they'll take great delight in shooting holes in them. 

Seriousley, though. 

I know it is easy for me to develop tunnel vision in a hurry so I need that "Hang on a minute John." group to help me keep balance

But Just Because It Won't Work Today..............
I have a drawer full of scribbles and doodles of ideas that that never got off the launching pad. Not yet at least!!

Way back in the mid-1980's I was working for a large company in its operations department. Some genius from our training and development department decided that it would be really cool to have our employee's evaluate us as managers. No one took the bait and the creator gave up.

Isn't this process part of the 360 Degree Feedback Process that many company's use to evaluate talent in today's workplace? The idea needed time to gain acceptance and once it did........... The rest is history

Commit those ideas to writing because you never know when an opportunity may come along and suddenly that really crazy idea makes you look like a genius.

Be Here Now! ~ Dr. Ivan Misner
Living in the present sucks sometimes, but it's necessary.

I.m not asking you to give up on your dreams or goals. I am asking you to close your eyes, take a deep breath and evaluate your own personal and business "NOWS."

There are many people who earn their money telling us to think and dream big. They share a story or a process that created success for them.

"For Them."




That's all for now. I have some cats I need to try and herd

Tuesday, October 18, 2016

"And Sometime You Approach the Same Starting Point Every Day........


Ridin' high I got tears in my eyes. You know you got to go through hell, before you get to heaven. Steve Miller Band, Jet Airliner, 1977

I don't know about you but I have always been a bit skeptical about those smiling faces staring back at me who are twisting their bodies into pretzels, all the while telling me it's good for me. 

I can't see myself doing that.

I've tried a dozen times and I've flamed out quicker than a meteor plummeting towards the earth at a rapid speed. 

You know what failure does don't you?

Failure makes you question your own self worth and value. Every blemish, smear and stain from all the way back .......

What I never realized is those journeys, those people smiling back at me from my tablet or DVR, are in the midst of their journeys, not mine. They are so excited and happy that they want to share their energy, their joy and their enthusiasm.

The journey of self discovery, in our relationships, in our careers and in our lives are as unique as our DNA. 

And sometimes we approach the same starting point every day, over and over.

Sorta like the movie Ground Hog Day.

It can be maddening. The hard work we commit to, the effort, the long hours only to look in the mirror and discover we are still us.

And sometimes we approach the same starting point every day, over and over. 

“It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.” The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams ,1922


I'll leave it for you to ponder on your own. 

Fight the good fight

Namaste

John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as a life coach, a career coach, and an intuitive career coach.  He and his wife Joan have been married for over 42 years





Tuesday, October 11, 2016

Days of Service



Without the internet you wouldn't be reading this blog.

Without the internet the term blog might refer to a clog in your kitchen sink.

At every moment of every day we have the power and the capacity to share our thoughts and ideas with the universe, and everyone in it!

Sit back and reflect on that for a moment - It's a scary thought. 

Get on with it, John.

The problem is, we're conditioned to believe that success is linked to activity. No, let me strike that thought.

We are conditioned to believe that success is linked to constant activity. Like good little drones we follow the prescription of the guru's or as Bushra Azhar so succinctly puts it The Poo-roos. 

Like quick silver running through our hands we cant understand why we are not as happy, healthy, and successful as the smiling faces that stare back at us from their own private island somewhere in the south Pacific.

Days of service.

Huh?

From time to time I record a YouTube video, about 5 to 7 minutes in length. That's the fun part. With content creation, preparation, both artistic and technical I invest close to 2 hours for every minute show.

It's not the smiling face staring back at you that makes it worthwhile and engaging. It's the work ahead of time that decides whether it will be a success or not.

Day of service.

No one may read what you write, broadcast or create but your dedication to your craft continues until one day , people take notice and you and your business are on their way.

Days of service aren't sexy.

You write, you post, you learn and you hope for the best. No one but you understands that better

John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as a life coach, a career coach, and an intuitive career coach.  He and his wife Joan have been married for over 42 years

Tuesday, October 4, 2016

Do You Use Your Own Product?


The late Zig Ziglar began his career selling pots and pans.

He liked to tell the story how his secret to success was purchasing a set for himself and then cooking a meal in the prospective buyer’s home. Once they tasted the meal, they were sold.  Throughout his life, he always looked back on that decision as the turning point in his career. 

When I facilitate a workshop on coaching it's one of the first things I cover:

Do you use a coach yourself?
About thirty percent of the audience raises their hands. The rest stare at the floor.

So, if you are not using a coach to help you reach your goals, how can you expect other people to value your service? 
It's a fair question. I use a business coach about every six months. It helps keep me on track with my business goals and most importantly it gives me real insight as to what my clients experience  when they are working with me.

I  don't know everything.
A few years ago I worked with a social media coach for six months. Why? I didn't really understand how to use social media effectively for my business. After meeting once a week for six months I felt confident enough in my own ability. When I began being invited to be a guest on podcasts and webinars I engaged a coach to help smooth out my rough edges.

If you are a champion of outsourcing you better well be outsourcing yourself.

In my past two postings I've shared with you the two most important things in selecting a good coach.

  • What are their qualifications? 
  • Do they use a coach themselves? 

Quality coaching services are an investment. Make sure your investment is going to reap a profitable return in your life, your career and your business. 

#newcareercreations 

John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as a life coach, a career coach, and an intuitive career coach.  He and his wife Joan have been married for over 42 years



Monday, October 3, 2016

Are You Experienced? (With Apologies to Jimi Hendrix)



From time to time I'll host a seminar on how to start your own business at my local public library. It's a good way to get newsletter and blog subscriptions, a great way to practice and enhance your platform skills and truth be told, I enjoy the sound of my own voice. (I'm my biggest fan!)

There is one, rock solid truth I share in every session:

Never take advice on how to start a business from someone who has never started a business. 

It's like learning to fly an airplane from someone who has read a lotta books about airplanes but has never actually flown one

Can you say disaster?

I make that comparison to coaching because since the world economy went into a tailspin almost 10 years ago, it seems as if coaches of all shapes, sizes and disciplines have come  popping up like weeds in the garden. 

People tell me I'd be a good coach, John. 

How come? 

I'm compassionate and a good friend. Oh yeah, people tell me I am a good listener. 

With all due respect, both my dogs posses those characteristics and while I value and love them dearly I wouldn't hire them as my coach. 

What qualifies you?  That is the first question you should ask a perspective coach. 

I am a certified life coach in two disciplines, general and intuitive. I am certified as a career coach and I am currently studying for my relationship coaching certification. 

Are life and career experience important?  You betcha!!! When coaching first came to be popular most coaches were academics and only affordable by executive managers. It's important that you discover what your coach has done during their career that qualifies them to guide you.   

I spent over ten years in operations management and over twenty years in human resources - hiring, firing, training and developing. I stated my own consulting firm in 1999. In 2001 I began coaching managers and supervisors and by 2006 was coaching people in all aspects of their careers. 

Can I talk with some of the people you've coached? Do you have references? 

Absolutely.

Quality coaching is not cheap. Make sure the person you engage is qualified to guide you.

Coaching is an investment in your future whether it be your life or your career. Do your homework and take your time in reaching a decision. 

John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as a life coach, a career coach, and an intuitive career coach.  He and his wife Joan have been married for over 42 years





Friday, September 30, 2016

A Good Coach Is..................


But how do you know?

I have been helping people find their career, life and relationship goals since mid- 2001. Back then there weren't as many of us as there are today and if you think the coaching profession lacks regulation in 2016, you should have seen it in its infancy. The Wild West comes to mind.

Most of us are qualified in the area(s) we coach in, authentic, honest and chock full of integrity. We don't over-promise, don't over sell and don't promise you the sun, the moon, and the stars. We are fair and equitable in what we charge for our services........

Okay, you get the point.

Let me make another via story, if I may.

I have a friend who will not come within a hundred yards of a peach, much less eat one. They had a bad experience and they haven't forgotten it. I've tried to tell them that one bad peach isn't representative of all peaches but our experiences can leave very vivid impressions.

Unfortunately, there isn't much difference between a bad peach and an unqualified or ill prepared coach. Once we have a bad experience we will remember it for a long, long time.

So, HOW do you know?

Let me share nine things to look for in a business coach. (Or any coach for that matter!)


  • What is their experience and expertise in their field?
  • Are they a good teacher?
  • What are their expectations of you?
  • Are they are accessible?
  • What's their attitude towards coaching? 
  • Who are their connections?
  • Will they hold you accountable?
  • Are they willing to listen to you?
  • Are they working with a coach themselves? 
From The 8 Qualities, You Need to Look for in a Business Coach by Stephen Key. The ninth item is my personal contribution. 


Clear as mud, hey? That is quite a lot to digest in one sitting. 

Over the next few days, I am going to break each point down in a separate blog so you have a clear understanding of where and with who you should invest your resources. 

As a mentor of mine once said: Stay tuned, there is more to come.

The above information  is a guideline based on the author's experience in coaching. Before choosing a coach make sure they meet your needs, both career and financial. (My lawyers always feel better when I say that.)

John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as a life coach, a career coach, and an intuitive career coach.  He and his wife Joan have been married for over 42 years






Wednesday, September 28, 2016

"You Can Be a Tad Bit Hard Headed, John"


“A farmer went out to sow his seed. As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path, and the birds came and ate it up.  Some fell on rocky places, where it did not have much soil. Other seed fell among thorns, which grew up and choked the plants. Still other seed fell on good soil, where it produced a crop—a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown.” Matthew 13:5, 7-9

Scary stuff.

One minute you're anticipating what you need to do when you get home and the next minute you are wondering why your gear shift cover is floating at eye level. It was just like in the movies or on TV.

Where the hell did that come from and why is there glass all over me? 

I didn't sleep well last night. The stiffness and soreness were easily dispatched with ibuprofen. I just kept laying there, wide awake.

I coulda been killed. 

But I wasn't. This could have had a much nastier ending.

The rental car people picked me up awhile ago and ferried me to get a loaner. Driving home I was tense, anxious and scared.

I don't wanna drive anymore. 

Somewhere in my head, a voice chirped Now you know how Maggie feels. 

Maggie is my daughter who has a severe phobia when it comes to driving. She's tried and tried but can't get past her fears. She takes busses and cabs but a lot of the time I drive her wherever she needs to go.

I've grown some, really I have. I went from resenting it to realizing that a lot of folks would love to have a daughter they could spend time with. Lottsa lonely people in this world. But I never understood why someone would have a fear of driving a car. It represents freedom and the excitement  of going wherever you wanted to go!!!

By the time I pulled into the driveway my hands were shaking.

I believe everything can be a learning experience, no matter how frightful, if we choose to open ourselves and face some things that we'd rather not face.

Joel Osteen says, It's removing our masks.

Now you know how Maggie feels.

I did. It finally registered that every time she sits behind the wheel her head spins a bit, she gets a tad bit nauseous and she'd rather be somewhere else.

Okay, Father, I get your message. Did it have to arrive in such a spectacular fashion? 

You can be a tad bit hard headed John. 



John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as a life coach, a career coach and an intuitive career coach.  He and his wife Joan have been married for over 42 years

Monday, September 26, 2016

The Hound of Heaven




The third time he said to him, "Simon son of John, do you love me?" Peter was hurt because Jesus asked him the third time, "Do you love me?" He said, "Lord, you know all things; you know that I love you." Jesus said, "Feed my sheep. ~John 21:17


There is a poem titled The Hound of Heaven by Francis Thompson. It's a long poem but it begins like this. 


I FLED Him, down the nights and down the days;
I fled Him, down the arches of the years;
I fled Him, down the labyrinthine ways
Of my own mind; and in the mist of tears
I hid from Him.........



I dotted all the "I's" and crossed all the "T's". I attended church, sang in the choir, gave inspiring speeches on retreat and knew my Scripture inside out. I was a good husband, father, and provider. I was not and never will be perfect. I never saw myself as being anything special. I was a husband and a father of six great kids. I had a steady job with a Fortune 5 company. People just don't start going to work and begin spreading the love of God as their prime profession when all of that is at stake.

Do they?

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I stood just inside the basement doorway enjoying the coolness. When we were younger my mom would make cookies and candies for holidays and put them on a folding table  to keep them fresh.  It was always very still and very quiet. I loved going down there. It was dark and cool.and the only light came from a small window on a far wall. You have to let your eyes adjust for a moment or two. 


I heard a faint but distinct voice in my heart and my head. 

Feed my sheep

Okay. You still haven't quite adjusted to the light. The power of suggestion, your mind playing tricks and some wishful thinking. I've never much cared for the "Repent or risk the lake of fire and everlasting brimstone crowd."I do not believe that's the point.  

"Where there is doubt faith, where there is despair hope and where there is sadness joy. 

That's what my coaching practice has evolved to. No charts, no graphs, no crawling inside your head. Someone asked me where I find my clients; how do I market and funnel and convert and all that jazz. I told them that they find me. 

It took a long time but I understand what that voice deep down inside of me meant for me. It meant that I was to share the hope, the faith, and the positive value with people who needed it most.

They don't teach that in business school.

Are you searching?

Maybe you can almost taste it or reach out and touch it but as soon as you do, it moves out of your reach.

Maybe you are tired of hitting your head against the wall because every time you take a step forward you feel yourself slowly sinking.

I can't quantify hope. It's not in a book it's in your heart.

I can help you find it, in your life and your career. 


John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as life coach, a career coach and an intuitive career coach.  He and his wife Joan have been married for over 42 years

Sunday, September 25, 2016

Better Slaves



Did that cause your eyes to shoot wide open as it did mine the first time I heard it?

Probably.

Bear with me.

The people of Israel were held captive in Egypt. Their main job - to make bricks. Straw is a key component in the ancient brick making process. Without it you have no brick.

Each morning the Egyptians would deposit a pile of straw in front of the Israelite's. Along with it, their quota of bricks for the day. Each day they met their quota,so the king kept raising their quota and they were equal to the task.

The king couldn't figure out how these people kept rising to the challenge so he told the supervisors to quit gathering straw. Let them gather their own and keep the same quota's in place.

That would fix their wagon!

So, the people of Israel gathered together in prayer and they asked God to help them meet their quota's and gather more straw.

Pretty inspirational huh?

Ask and you shall receive. I mean that's the whole point of the Bible, right? God grants favor to those who are in agreement with him, right?

So, I am driving down the road listening to this story from Joel Osteen, when he completely blows my mind.

He says that in reality they were asking God to make them better slaves.

They weren't praying for abundance, freedom, or all those amazing things we are promised if we are in agreement with God.

Ever have a Whoaaa and Ah-Ha moment at the same time? (It can be a bit dicey)

Lord, help us make it to pay day. We'll be forever grateful. 

Lord, if I can be pain free for just a day or so.......

Lord, I am asking you to help me keep my job.

When I do that, I'm not asking for abundance or for prosperity in my life. I am asking to be a better slave. I am asking to keep my current condition.

Wanna know why?

I don't believe I deserve any more than what I have. I'm just grateful God doesn't turn around and squash me like a bug.

Abundance? Favor? Prosperity? - They're for everyone else.

People ask me all the time: What is it you actually do, John? 

When I heard that broadcast the  other day it all became clear.

Quit praying to be a better slave. 

In my next two or three blogs, I am going to share with you how I got to be where I am in this journey. Some of it,I have never shared with anyone. 

I think It's time. 

John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as life coach, a career coach and an intuitive career coach.  He and his wife Joan have been married for over 42 years

Wednesday, September 21, 2016

What If You Weren't There?



It usually come from out of the clear blue.

I get out of bed in the morning focused on what lies ahead. Blogs to be written, clients to talk to, networking events, joint ventures, social media marketing..........

Gotta fit a trip to the gym in there somehow, right?

Gotta look and feel your best.

Like I said; It usually comes out of nowhere, sorta like the pop-up thunderstorm that grabs your attention with its first clap of thunder.

It's can be an email, a private message, a quick blog comment thanking you for being an anchor, for sharing an insight, revealing your own pain and indecision or picking up your pom-pom's and being a cheerleader when it was most needed.

Someone touches my heart when they thank me for helping them through an ordeal or consider me part of a family they do not have because I am always ready with support and help and just being a good friend.

I sorta scratch my head.

"Why isn't this reflected in my algorithms?"

"Why doesn't my page view needle spike?"

"Will this affect my SEO?"

I have never attended a webinar or seminar that's talked about sharing part of myself with other people simply because I believe I have the responsibility to do so.

What if you weren't there?

Oh, I know, you mutter something about how someone else would step in and fill the void. Nope, sorry, you are wrong they wouldn't - They couldn't.

"Where you are is where you should be, right now." 

Someone shared that with me almost 20 years ago. When I poise my hand over the key board, look into the camera and smile to my adoring faithful I  remember...........

"They don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care."

What if you weren't there?

What if I weren't?

Scary thought, hey?

It gets me through the rough patches.

John Jurkiewicz is the owner and operator of  New Career Creations a unique approach to happiness and success in our lives through gaining satisfaction and fulfillment in our careers. He has over forty years of experience in operation management, human resource management, training and development and has owned his own business for close to 17 years. John is certified as life coach, a career coach and an intuitive career coach.  

Sunday, September 18, 2016

The Other 11


But when he saw the wind,he was afraid, and beginning to sink he cried out, “Lord, save me.” Matthew 13:30

So there he was, scampering out of the boat, eyes all aglow with excitement. This was his big moment, his 15 minutes of fame, the signature moment that would stamp him unequivocally as "The One."

I can see him, a smile on his face and a bit of a swagger as he navigated the waves. He looked back at the other 11 huddled in the boat.

He thinks, They're talking to each other, probably giving me my props, after all this time.

Oh, Lord, there he goes again.

He won't ever learn.

He just won't leave well enough alone. 
Ya know, we are gonna have to hear about this for a long time.

With each step he gains more confidence and courage. He may have even done a bit of a dance as he skittered across the waves.

Jesus must be REALLY impressed.

A strong gust of wind, then another and the rain picks up. The waves get higher.

Where is Jesus, I can't see him? Help, help.......

We've all heard this story or a reference to it in some form or fashion. We're told Jesus chastised poor Peter for his lack of faith. 
Jesus immediately reached out his hand and took hold of him, saying to him, 

“O you of little faith, why did you doubt?” And when they got into the boat, the wind ceased. Matthew 14: 31-32

I have another take.

First, I don't believe for a moment that Jesus was being critical. I believe he was asking Peter,

What happened? You were doing great and then the wind came up and you fell to pieces. Work on your faith and you'll be fine.

Okay, I haven't been struck by lightening so let me share what I believe is the sub plot in this story.

No one got out of the boat but Peter.

The other 11? They cowered, whimpered and looked out across the sea in awe.

Better to hang on tight to what I know then run the risk of losing it all..........

Jesus was a great teacher. He used parables and examples and stories to make a point. 
I think Jesus knew that Peter was going to stumble a bit and he knew when he led him back to the boat.

When he questioned Peter's faith it wasn't to berate him, it was also meant to ask the other 11 why hadn't they joined him?

Faith is a funny thing. It manifests itself in all sorts of different ways.

The successful people I know?

They scamper over the side of the boat each and every morning and sometimes they make it to the shore and sometimes the wind blows them off course.

One thing is for certain. Each and every morning they climb in the boat and head out to sea, ready for whatever is headed their way.

The rest of us?

We're often like the other 11. We'll stay in the boat and take our chances.

But every moment of every day,we have a chance to jump out of the boat to walk on water

Sunday, September 11, 2016

You Want Me to Do WHAT?



We don't talk about forgiveness in the workplace a whole lot . It means we'd have to face up to all sorts of stuff that we'd rather not talk about.

Makes ya a bit squeamish doesn't it?

Pride goes before the fall and all that stuff.




I know people whose mission in life is to help us improve our physical well being. They are  vigilant about warning us of the dangers the food we ingest and how our life style affects the quality of our life.

For the life of me, I can't think of anyone who takes us on a journey of exploring and examining the toxicity we allow in our minds and souls on a day to day basis.

I'm not talking about in-your-face intervention. I'm talking about a moment of personal reckoning


Jerusalem, wake up! Stand up!
You’ve drunk too much
from the cup filled
with the Lord’s anger.
You have swallowed every drop,
and you can’t walk straight.
~Isaiah 51:17

If I wasn't awake when I read that passage I was afterwards. 

Holy Cow! Don't pull any punches or anything. 

The next few verses of that chapter go on to talk about being consumed with anger and malice towards our enemies and how God is willing to remove it from us. 

Isaiah challenges us to walk straight, to go beyond our anger towards those folks we hold hostage in our minds. 

It's an act of courage that creates wholeness and renewal  within. 

Have a blessed week. 





Friday, September 2, 2016

Keeping Focused





I heard a story the other day.

A man was walking through an airport terminal and saw a sign on the wall that read Your Future: Twenty Five Cents. 

Below it was a small machine.

The man dug in his pocket for a quarter and put in the slot. After a few seconds a piece of paper came out

Your name is John Smith. You are on the 2:20 PM flight to Chicago.

The man was amazed. He looked around and couldn't quite figure out how a small, square box knew so much about him.

He found another quarter, put it in the slot and waited.

Your name is John Smith. You are on the 2:20 PM flight to Chicago.

The man began stopping other travelers. Did they know how this, this, this thing worked and how did it know so much about him? 

Most people shook their heads. 

A few moved away in a hurry. 

The man reached for another quarter and to his dismay he was out of change. 

He hurried to a news stand on the other side of the terminal. He returned with a handful of quarters. 

Eagerly and expectantly he pushed a quarter into the slot. 

Your name is John Smith. You just missed the  2:20 PM flight to Chicago.


Stay focused

Don't miss your  2:20 PM flight to Chicago

Saturday, August 27, 2016

Is Yours Up To Date? Bonus Blog



Do you remember about 3 years ago, when you helped me with my resume? 

Yes?

I need it updated. 

Okay, that's easy enough. Tell me whats happened in the past 3 years. 

Uhm, well, that's what I need your help with. 

If I had a nickel.........

You have a killer resume, get the position of a lifetime and you feel that, well, that's that.

It ain't

My suggestion is you review your resume every 6 months and make updates when needed.

There may have been a promotion, or a significant honor that came your way. A noteworthy achievement?

Make sure they are noted and updated on your resume so when the next greatest opportunity comes along you aren't scrambling for a bottle of Valium like everyone else.
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Schedule a reminder in your calendar app six months from today. - "Check resume for updates."

Shoot fire, with the way technology is today you can set reminders for a couple of years.

That way, you're prepared when the next great thing comes along.


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One of the many services I offer is the six month reminder to the people whose resumes I create or modify. If you want to know more you can contact me through my web site New Career Creations

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On the right column of the page, just below the blog archive section, is a tab that reads
SUBSCRIBE TO MY BLOG. Right below it a place to put your email address and viola, every time I post you will get a reminder.

Pretty cool, huh?

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Thursday, August 25, 2016

Living With Ghosts



The late Zig Ziglar once said that it's okay to visit pity city. You just can't build a house there.

I think it's the same with our past.

We can look at it. We can learn from it. We can pause for a moment or two.

But really? It's not much more than a reference point.

It's tucked away in layers of dust or in dark corners. Maybe it only pops up at 4 AM

Sometimes it puts the brakes on our future --- A grim reminder from deep inside that says we are not good enough, smart enough, strong enough.

Men don't.............

Women dont................

You're too.............

It's like a hand that reaches into the back of our waist band and holds us tight and forever treading water. Or so it seems

Our past is a reminder of where we've been and how far we've come. Maybe it's not always been at the speed we'd like.

Each of us has a  mission and purpose that only comes from looking forward not back

It is where we get our sense of purpose in our lives and in our careers.

It is a point of reference when I'm feeling stuck.  I can look over my shoulder and marvel just how far I've come since.............. Well, you fill in your own blank.

We all have one.

What matters is how we look at it and what we do with it

Otherwise we just living with ghosts




Tuesday, August 16, 2016

Kid Fears



It ended with a hug.

Not one of those hugs that's taken the place of a handshake.

It was a full on hug and after a second or two I started counting. When he released it he looked at me and said thank you.

His company had hired me to see if I could coach him through some basic supervisory skills. His immediate supervisor told me that if his father hadn't owned the company he'd have been terminated after a week.

Could I help him?

He pulled up to our first meeting in a brand new Cadillac Escolade - An incentive from his dad to perform well. He waved his VISA gold card around enough that the serving staff paid really close attention to us. He ordered way more food than he could eat and didn't seem to concerned about throwing most of it away.

I wanna apologize for having to cancel on you last week. I got hit with a DWUI and it took my dad's lawyer a day or so to get it take care of. 

He winked.

Dad had left when he was 5 yeas old. The lure of success was more attractive then a wife and a child. Other than the monthly support check, dad was pretty much out of his life.

When he needed a job dad decided it was time to make up for twenty plus years of neglect and mandated that he be given a responsible position and a hefty salary.

For a long time dad was the only one in the company who slept well at night.

We spent three months eating lunch together once a week and I'd like to tell you that he did the proverbial 180 and went on to do great things.

If I told you that then this would be a work of fiction.

I do not consider my time with him a waste.

That hug I told you about?

That hug reminded me of the hugs my adult children give me from time to time. So, maybe, just for 10 seconds or so, he felt validated as a human being, accepted for who he was and just a smidgen secure.

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In other words you're a life coach?

I'd appear to look offended and hurt.

Uh, no. I am a career development coach who specializes in the areas of small business, career transition and workplace relationships. 

I had to pause to catch my breath in the middle of that dissertation.

So you're a life coach. 


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Are you on fire
From the years?
What would you give for your
Kid fears?

Monday, August 8, 2016

Now

My birthday was this past Saturday and I had a hard time enjoying it.

I was blessed with a  nasty summer cold that isn't going away anytime soon.

I cursed my luck and the fates and walked around gloomy and grumpy.

I put on a brave smile as we gathered for lunch, presents and cake.

Inside? "Gloom, despair, agony on me. Deep dark depression, excessive misery. If it weren't for bad luck I'd have no luck at all...."

Everyone kept telling me they were so, so sorry I was sick on my birthday.

That's gotta suck John.

No kidding - only "kidding" wasn't the word I used.  

I limped home and collapsed, all the while bemoaning my fate. Sick on my birthday. Sigh.


I fight the present. I've always been dissatisfied with where I am at the moment

I always wanna be better, stronger, more intelligent. 

I want you to like me, to admire me. (It's okay to swoon also.)

I cannot fall behind. If I do I'll be forgotten

It's my greatest fear - to be pased by, forgotten left on the front porch. 

The last kid chosen

Time's a wastin'

Got get better, gotta compete. 

This was just another in a long line of things that were slowing me down and BTW my birthday? 

 I turned 63.

Tick tock, tick, tock

A cold!!! A freakin' cold. In August




It easy for me to calm and quiet my anxieties on an intellectual level, but emotionally  I'm standing there with a garden hose fighting a raging fire.

Whatever the present moment contains accept it
as if you had chosen it.

File that wisdom under "bitter pill to swallow."

I'm workin' on it.

I woke up today resigned to my current fate which beats the snot out of trying to run it out of town.

I'm workin' on it.

One day soon I'll just breathe deep and accept today as it is, with all of its possibilities. Just as it is.

God, I hope I have another 63 years left!