Joan and I were watching the TV program, Hell's Kitchen the other night. If you are not familiar, Chef Gordon Ramsey picks about 20 chefs, verbally abuses them for 10 weeks or so and then who ever survives, gets to work for him.
The definition of insanity?
Ramsey throws food, pots, pans and anything he can get his hands on to show his displeasure. A lot of people think this is cute or funny. Some say it is all an act. Some justify Ramsey's actions and defend him buy saying that he contributes substantially to charities, especially for disabled kids. One behavior should balance the other or something like that. I don't know.
At one point in the show Ramsey said the following words, or words to the effect "Hey, you!! I'm talking to you. Yes you, you COW." Oh yeah this was directed at a female chef.
Now some of you may think that's not so bad, or maybe I'm over reacting. Okay, let's do this. Take the word "cow" out of than sentence and replace it with lets say, a racial slur or an ethnic slur. Ball game changes doesn't it? Chef Ramsey wouldn't be around long enough to throw the next batch of under cooked risotto.
Why, then, is it okay to use derogatory language towards women? On TV and movies we regularly hear the "S" word, the "W" word, the "B" word and the queen mother of them all, the "C" word. People laugh or excuse the language because of immaturity. Again, replace any of those words with a racial or ethnic slur and a lot of somebodies are in huge trouble and should be.
Florida States quarterback Jameis Winston, was suspended for a full game for shouting one of those derogatory remarks concerning women last week. It went viral, a jillion hits on YouTube. Once again, substitute a racial or ethnic slur and Jameis is history.
Whats my point?
We as a society do not afford women the same equal status and recognition that we do other people. We slap peoples wrists when they call them names. So, when men start taking the short leap to physically assaulting a woman, we just sorta shrug our shoulders.
They deserve it, right? I mean that's what we think. "She needs to keep her mouth shut," and "I'ts between him and her." It's the same justification we used years ago towards racial and ethnic minorities.
It begins with Gordon Ramsey yelling "cow" and it ends with Ray Rice knocking his wife out in an elevator.
If you and I REALLY believe in equality, lets start practicing it across the board and towards everyone.